If you've been following me for a while you know that I am more than a little fascinated by etiquette and if you live me you've had to sit through every single screen adaptation of Jane Austen, Henry James and Edith Wharton's work at least a dozen times. As an etiquette consultant I primarily speak about how to adapt 20th century etiquette to the 21st century landscape but on Tuesday, October 2nd I get to go a little further back. I will be at McCarter Theatre in Princeton, New Jersey for an Evening of Etiquette talking about 19th Century manners in Gilded Age New York City. Just before the performance of Edith Wharton's The Age of Innocence at McCarter Theatre, we'll gather to explore the nuances and intricacies of 1870's one percenters. After the show, stay for cocktails and do some 19th century socializing with select members of the cast, crew and staff.
As the summer winds down and we juggle schedules trying to fit in one more precious weekend away don't forget and leave your house guest manners behind. 1. Host/Hostess Gift: Unless you come every weekend bring a small gift for your hosts. Candles and scents are my favorite. 2. Make Your Bed: You're not in a hotel to remember to make your bed before you leave your room for the day. 3. Be Decisive: If your hosts ask what you 'd like to eat for lunch don't just say whatever, narrowing it down to your tastes is a real help to someone hosting multiple people over the weekend. 4. Make a Meal: Especially if it's a low-key weekend with not a lot scheduled, offer to make a meal one evening. Barefoot Contessa has some of my favorite quick summer meals. 5. Don't Complain: If your host asks you if you slept well just say yes! Don't remark on a lumpy sofa or drafty room. 6. Don't Overstay: Even if your gracious hosts say stay as long as you'd like just stay for a couple of nights at most, especially if it's a first visit. 7. Say Thank You: Don't forget to follow up with a thank you note in the mail or I like to bring a couple of sets of my personal stationery and leave a note behind on the dresser or desk of the guest room.
